Archive for January, 2008

Being Gentle With Ourselves

January 31, 2008

[ From DailyOM ]

During those times when our lives are filled with what seems to be constant change and growth, it is important to remember that we need to be gentle with ourselves. Since it can be easy to use our energy to keep up with the momentum of our lives, we may not be aware of the fact that we are much more likely to run ourselves down. When things seem to be moving quickly, it is especially essential that we make a point to slow down and be gentle with ourselves.

It might be difficult to notice what is happening to us for we may be so caught up in the whirlwind of our lives that we lose sight of the direction in which things are heading. Being gentle with ourselves doesn’t mean that we don’t accomplish things. Instead it means that we honor ourselves on an ongoing basis and take care of the needs of our bodies.

This means different things to different people. For instance, it could mean having a session with a healer; taking a remedy, herbs, or vitamins; or getting extra sleep. Putting our energy into ourselves in this way helps create space for a more positive, loving, and accepting view of our lives. By setting the intention to do so, we will be more cognizant of our energy levels on a daily basis and more able to replenish them as needed.

The more we are able to treat our bodies with gentleness, the more tenderness and compassion we will call forth into our lives. Learning to understand and pay attention to what our self needs will in turn allow us to fill our lives with unlimited loving and healing energy and to truly take care of the things that mean the most to us.

How Poor Are We?

January 30, 2008

One day, the father of a very wealthy family took his son on a trip to the country with the express purpose of showing him how poor people live.

They spent a couple of days and nights on the farm of what would be considered a very poor family.

On their return from their trip, the father asked his son, “How was the trip?”

“It was great, Dad.”

“Did you see how poor people live?” the father asked.

“Oh yeah,” said the son.

“So, tell me, what did you learn from the trip?” asked the father.

The son answered, “I saw that we have one dog and they had four. We have a pool  that reaches to the middle of our garden and they have a creek that has no end.We have imported lanterns in our garden and they have the stars at night. Our patio reaches to the front yard and they have the whole horizon. We have a small piece of land to live on and they have fields that go beyond our sight. We have servants who serve us, but they serve others. We buy our food, but they grow theirs. We have walls around our property to protect us, they have friends to protect them.”

The boy’s father was speechless.

Then his son added,  “Thanks Dad for showing me how poor we are.”

Isn’t perspective a wonderful thing? It makes you wonder what would happen if we all give thanks for everything we have, instead of worrying about what we don’t have.

Choosing True Connections

January 30, 2008

[ From DailyOM ]

We are often lured by the promise of new technologies to make our lives easier and help connect us to others. While they do so in many ways, they also present each of us with opportunities to make new choices about how we spend our time and invest our energy. Most gadgets are generally meant to improve the quality of our lives, but it is when we spend too much time with them that they actually do the opposite. By always using our portable emailers, cell phones, video games, and surfing the Internet, we actually become less connected and more distracted. By becoming aware of these tendencies, we harness the power to overcome them and make better choices for ourselves and our families.

Once we decide to consciously put our gadgets to work for us, we become masters of our time. We can give our full attention to whatever we are doing and not let phone conversations and other distractions take the place of human contact. Each of us has the ability to consciously choose to be more present in our lives. We can decide at any time to leave our gadgets behind and become aware of the sights and sounds around us in order to expand our awareness and be fully present in our bodies and our surroundings.

When we use our discernment about how we invest our personal energy, we can be sure that we choose only the best for ourselves and those we love. Our gadgets can be useful tools for our journey in the material world, but we must not forget that we are spiritual beings having a human experience and that means interacting with people on a personal level. Choices that enliven us and help us feel connected to our world and our loved ones always deserve our full attention and presence of mind, body, and spirit.

Letting Them Go

January 29, 2008

[Music & lyrics by Quek Hui Ling. Free download available on www.buddhistfellowship.org]

In the spring time, the flowers are blooming
All is beautiful and bright
Oh, hear all those green leaves rustling
See the trees swaying gently in the wind.

But suddenly a storm appears
Scaring all the flowers, trees and birds
And when the storm is gone
And the calm sets in,
You’ll see

Whatever’s left on the ground
Are not just wilting leaves
You’ll find that there are young ones too
Not even fully grown

But that’s the way the world is
You’ve got to learn that fast
Understand the law of nature
Be grateful they’ve come this far

No one can be with you forever
The sooner you realize this the better
Live better than those who have gone away
Carry on their legacy and honour

And in your heart you’ll have no fear
You can let go of those you hold so dear
Will you accept this truth
And put an end to all your tears

Cherish them when they’re here with you
But don’t cling on when they’ve to go
One day they must leave you
Just as one day you’ll leave them too.

Forgive whatever has happened
They now belong to the past
Give them your blessings to go in peace
Practice all that you preach at last

No one can live forever
This body we can’t control
Our real home is inner peace
Some day we’ll have to let it go.

Every Step Is Forward

January 29, 2008

[From DailyOM]

There are times when we feel that we are spinning our wheels in the mud in terms of our spiritual progress. This can be especially true following a period of major growth in which we feel as if we’ve gained a lot of ground. In fact, this is the way growth goes—periods of intense forward movement give way to periods of what seems like stagnation. In those moments when we feel discouraged, it’s helpful to remember that we don’t ever really go backward. It may be that we are at a standstill because there is a new obstacle in our paths, or a new layer to get through, but the hard work we have done cannot be undone.

Every step on the path is meaningful, and even one that seems to take us backward is a forward step in the sense that it is what we must do to move to the next level. In addition, an intense growth spurt requires that we rest for a time in order to fully integrate the new energies that have been liberated by our hard work. When we feel we are not making progress, we can encourage ourselves to take a moment to rest. We can meditate more, feed ourselves well, and get extra sleep. Before we know it, we will be spurred on to work toward the next level of our development, and this rest will make sense then as something we needed in order to continue.

Once the sun rises, it doesn’t go backward but instead follows its path in one direction. It may appear to stand still for a moment in time, or to move more slowly at some point or another, but really it is steadily moving forward on its path. We are the same way, and once we have moved through something we can never really go back. We may be resting or revisiting issues that seem old, and it’s natural to feel stuck, but in truth we are always taking the next important step forward on our path.

Are Your Beauty Products Safe?

January 28, 2008

“There has been a lot in the news lately about the lack of adequate health testing and warning information on beauty products. Many chemicals used in common soaps, shampoos, perfumes, cleansers, makeup, lipsticks, and more may be hazardous to our health.” [full article]

Resolutions for 2008

January 28, 2008

2008新概念

  1. 一個中心:一切以健康為中心。
  2. 兩個基本點:遇事瀟灑一點,看世糊塗一點。
  3. 三個忘記:忘記年齡,忘記過去,忘記恩怨。
  4. 四個擁有: 無論你有多弱或多強,要擁有真正愛你的人,擁有知心朋友,擁有向上的事業,擁有溫暖的住所。
  5. 五個要: 要唱,要跳,要俏,要笑,要苗條。
  6. 六個不能: 不能餓了才吃,不能渴了才喝,不能困了才睡,不能累了才歇,不能病了才檢查,不能老了再後悔! 少喝奶茶,不吃剛烤的麵包,遠離充電電源,白天多喝水晚上少喝酒,一天不喝多於兩杯咖啡,少吃油多的食物,最佳睡眠為晚上十點至早上六點,晚上五點後少吃大餐,不用冷水服膠囊,睡前半小時服藥忌立刻躺下。睡眠不足八小時人會變笨,有午睡的習慣人不易老。電池剩一格時不要打電話,剩一格時輻射是平時的一千倍,還要記得用左耳接電話,用右耳會直接傷害到大腦,

Don’t Quit

January 28, 2008

[Author Unknown]

When things go wrong, as they sometimes will,
When the road you’re trudging seems all up hill,
When the funds are low and the debts are high,
And you want to smile, but you have to sigh,
When care is pressing you down a bit,
Rest if you must, but don’t you quit…
Success is failure turned inside out.
The silver tint of the clouds of doubt,
And you never can tell how close you are,
It may be near when it seems too far,
So stick to the fight when you’re hardest hit.
It’s when things seem worst that you must not quit!

Centering Ourselves

January 28, 2008

[From DailyOM]

When our thoughts are scattered in several directions at once and we are no longer conscious of what we are doing or why, it is time to center ourselves. When we center ourselves, we begin by acknowledging that we have become spread too thin and we are no longer unified inside. Our thoughts might be out of sync with our feelings, and our actions may be out of sync with both. The main signs that we need to center ourselves are scattered thoughts and a feeling of disconnection or numbness, as if we are no longer able to take anything in. In addition, we may feel unfocused and not present in our bodies. Centering ourselves is a way of coming to terms with all the different energies within us and drawing them back into ourselves.

Centering yourself means that you are working from or being aware of the core of your being in the solar plexus area of your body. At first it may not make sense, but as you progress you will understand what this feels like. We naturally know how to center ourselves when we take a deep breath, for example, before making a big announcement or doing something big. Another way to center ourselves is to sit down and engage in breath meditation. We can start by simply getting into a comfortable upright position and noticing as our breath enters and leaves our bodies. Our breath flows into our center and out from our center, and this process can serve as a template for all of our interactions in the world. In conversations, we can take what our friends are saying into the center of our beings and respond from the center. Our whole lives mirror this ebb and flow of energy that begins and ends at the center of ourselves. If we follow this ebb and flow, we are in harmony with the universe, and when we find we are out of harmony, we can always come back into balance by sitting down and observing our breath.

When we sit down to center ourselves we can imagine that we are gathering our straying thoughts and energies back into ourselves, the way a mother duck gathers her babies around her. We can also visualize ourselves casting a net and pulling all the disparate parts of ourselves back to the center of our being, creating a sense of fluid integration. From this place of centeredness, we can begin again, directing ourselves outward in a more intentional way.

Shifting The Mood

January 25, 2008

[From DailyOM]

We all have days when we are faced with chores, errands, or responsibilities that we don’t want to do. At times like these, it’s easy to get into a bad mood and stay in one as we tackle these tasks. However, given the fact that our bad mood will not change the fact that we have to do these things, and will most likely make things worse, we could also try to shift our attitude. Many wise people have pointed out that it is not so much what we do as it is how we do it that makes the difference in our lives.

It’s important when we’re facing something that’s really hard for us, whether it’s doing taxes, paying bills, or visiting a challenging relative, that we lovingly support ourselves through the process. The more supported we feel, the easier it is to open our minds to the idea that we could change our way of looking at the situation. In truth, most of the chores we don’t like doing are intimately intertwined with our blessings. When we remember this, we feel gratitude, which makes it hard to stay in a dark mood.

We can shift our attitude by considering how much we love our home as we clean it and how lucky we are to have a roof over our head. Any task can be transformed from a burden to a necessary aspect of caring for something we love. All we have to do is shift our perspective, and our attitude follows shortly behind.

Phrases for Thought

January 24, 2008
  • Anger is a condition in which the tongue works faster than the mind.
  • You can’t change the past, but you can ruin the present by worrying over the future.
  • All people smile in the same language.
  • A hug is a great gift… one size fits all. It can be given for any occasion and it’s easy to exchange.
  • Everyone needs to be loved… especially when they do not deserve it.
  • The real measure of a man’s wealth is what he has invested in eternity.
  • Everyone has beauty but not everyone sees it.
  • It’s important for parents to live the same things they teach.
  • Thank God for what you have, TRUST GOD for what you need.
  • If you fill your heart with regrets of yesterday and the worries of tomorrow, you have no today to be thankful for.
  • The choice you make today will usually affect tomorrow.
  • Take time to laugh, for it is the music of the soul.
  • If anyone speaks badly of you, live so none will believe it.
  • Patience is the ability to idle your motor when you feel like stripping your gears.
  • Love is strengthened by working through conflicts together.
  • The best thing parents can do for their children is to love each other.
  • Harsh words break no bones but they do break hearts.
  • To get out of a difficulty, one usually must go through it.
  • We take for granted the things that we should be giving thanks for.
  • Love is the only thing that can be divided without being diminished.
  • Happiness is enhanced by others but does not depend upon others.
  • For every minute you are angry with someone, you lose 60 seconds of happiness that you can never get back.

Worth The Time

January 24, 2008

[From DailyOM] Ironically, when we get busy, the first thing that tends to get cut back is our meditation practice. We have less time and a lot on our plates, so it makes sense that this happens, but in the end it doesn’t really help us. Most of us know from experience that we function much better when we give ourselves time each day to sit in silence. And the more we have to do, the more we need that solitary, quiet time for the day ahead. As a result, while it may sound counterintuitive, it is during busy times that we most need to spend more time in meditation rather than less. By being quiet and listening to the universe, we will be given what we need to get through our day. Expanding our morning meditation by just 10 minutes can make a big difference, as can the addition of short meditations into our daily schedule. The truth is, no matter how busy we are, unless we are in the midst of a crisis we always have five or 10 minutes to spare. The key is convincing ourselves that spending that time in meditation is the most fruitful choice. We could be getting our dishes done or heading into work earlier instead, so it’s important that we come to value the importance of meditation in the context of all the other things competing for attention in our lives. All we have to do to discover whether it works to meditate more when we are busy is to try it. We can start by creating more time in the morning, either by getting up earlier or by preparing breakfast the night before and using the extra time for meditation. We can also add short meditation breaks into our schedule, from five minutes before or after lunch to a meditation at night before we go to sleep. When we come from a place of centered calm, we are more effective in handling our busy schedules and more able to keep it all in perspective. If more time in meditation means less time feeling anxious, panicky, and overwhelmed, then it’s certainly worth the extra time.

Opening to Understanding

January 23, 2008

[From DailyOM]

There are times when we may find ourselves struggling or even fighting with our thoughts and emotions. We may feel that something must be done in a certain way or not at all, or there may be some other situation that feels absolutely black and white. But life is not this way—it’s the way we are looking at our experiences that is causing the turmoil within us. When we become aware that the struggle we are having is with ourselves, we can turn our attention to the source in order to solve the problem, but we must be being willing to look where we need to and feel emotions that may make us uncomfortable at first. Then we can choose to really open ourselves to understanding all the options we can imagine. We are likely to discover that we are resisting something based on a limited understanding, and we must then open ourselves to willingness.

When we are willing to look at all the possibilities, we also become willing to accept that there is room for more than we can imagine. We can release ourselves from the grip we had on our emotions and stop limiting ourselves. We may have been unwilling to experience feeling loss, confusion, fear, or even joy for some reason or another, but when we realize that our understanding was limited we allow space for the universe to move in our lives.

Opening ourselves to willingness may feel like we are surrendering or abandoning all that we believed. But at the same time it is an act of power and courage because it is a conscious choice we make about how to apply our personal will. Being willing is to be in a state of willing something into creation. It is at once allowing ourselves to be while also choosing to direct our energy in a focused way. It is being and doing from a place of openness, where we can work with the universe rather than resist it. It is an open hand rather than one that is clenched into a fist. When we make a step toward willingness, we open ourselves to truth, possibility, and the movement of the wise universe in and through our lives.

How to Heal Your Body

January 21, 2008

[by Lapis Lazuli Light]

如何自愈您的身体 — 琉璃光季刊  张智惠

露易 丝. 海( Louise L.Hay)是美国一位颇受喜爱的心灵启发老师,她温和亲切的        心灵启发力量改变了无数人的生命观,这本《如何自愈您的身体》( How to Heal Your Body)是她的畅销书之一。藉此一隅与大家分享本书的摘要,在台湾的读者 敬请与等待译书的上市,一览全书更详细了解疾病产生的实因和自愈的方法。

作者开门见山告诉我们,疾病可以经由转变我们的潜意识而得到痊愈,她举自己的亲身经验说,她在五岁那年受到凌辱和殴打伤害后,潜伏造下她中年得阴道癌。而身为多年的心灵疗师,她深深了解此刻就是证实自己所教学的考验。

如同一般人获知自己得癌的反应,她也陷入一阵的惊恐,可是内心里她明白潜意识可以治疗疾病。因为癌症始源於长时间的内疚,直到它慢慢侵蚀我们的身体。如果我们接受手术,割掉身体上的癌细胞,但没有清除潜意识的思考模式,结果是我们必须不断地承受医生切割,直到肉体无处可切割了。

但如果我们动手术清除造成癌症的潜意识病魔,那癌症就不会再复发。所以,任何癌症或疾病的再并发,并非是因为医生没有做好清除手术,而是病人没有除掉潜意识的垃圾,而造成同样病的复发。当作者获知自己的情况之后,与医生争取了三个月的缓和时间,尽管医生警告如此只会耽误治疗机会,但她仍执意自己执行健康食疗,清除体内毒素及不少的宽恕工作。六个月后,作者让那些医生、专家同意了她的看法,因为她身上再也找不到任何癌细胞了。作者也一直保留这些化验报告,藉以警惕自己,消极的想法会给自己造成多大的伤害。

现在只要有病人来找她,不管他们的病况有多厉害,只要病人愿意在潜意识下做宽谅的工作,几乎所有的疾病都可以痊愈。

往往当医生、专家宣布「无药可救」时都会给病人带来惊恐。其实这只是表示有些特殊情况是不能经由「外在」方法去治疗,而必须经由我们「渗透」到内在去影响痊愈的能力。

不管这些负面的想法、疾病、财务困难、自我埋怨等陪伴我们有多久时间,毕竟这些已是过去的事。唯有选择当下—-今天,开始改变我们的想法来创造更美好的 明天。因为最有威力的转捩点就在当下,要知道,任何的转变都始於小小的起步,让过去无用的烦恼一股脑的抛弃。

回想我们还是婴儿的时侯,是那么的纯洁及受宠,你可以感到自己有多重要,是全宇宙的中心人物。你有斗大的胆子要求想要的东西,可尽情地抒发自己的感受。你深爱自己所拥有的一切,身体和外貌,你是完美的,这就是真实的你,其余外在的都可以不必去理会。

而现在我们却极少有机会静下来问问自己的感受,譬如,「为什么我会相信学习这些对我有困难?这是真的吗?这想法又是从那来的呢?我仍然相信二年级老师一再告诉我的话吗?如果把这些观点都抛掉,我会变得更好吗?」回想一下,如果让这些想法塑造成你的体验和生活模式,难道你愿意让它们成为真实生活中的一部分吗?想想看,把这些焦虑、生气、受害或报复的想法反射给你时会是怎样的情况。假使我们想要有愉悦的生命,我们必须有愉悦的思想,因为,不论潜意识或口语上,我们送出去的东西都会以原状反射给我们。所以要有决心去改变自己的思想、话语,然后观察你周遭生活的转变。

因为只有你知道脑子里想的东西,如此你也不会再把自己身体或生活上的不如意怪罪於自己或别人,因为你自己的健康完全主宰於自己。

要一劳永逸地去除不健康的思想模式,我们必须去化解潜意识的困扰所在。通常我们很难明白究竟原因是什么,而无从下手。这也是本书的用意,作者把所有疾病的分析和解决方法都列出供你参考。

作者本身经验告诉他,生命中任何情况的产生都是有原因才呈现的,而这些疾病的徵状就是蕴於内而形於外的结果,因此我们必须进入到脑海里去找起因解决问题。斩草不除根,春风吹又生,在确认新的思想前,我们要有意志力去除掉一些不想要的东西,因为这些不要的东西去除后,外在的效力必定消灭,因为除了根的草是长不活的,潜伏在我们脑海里会造成疾病的思想模式,不外乎批评、气恼、怨恨和罪恶感,譬如,放任批评的习惯长时间下来会引发关节炎的毛病;气恼会引发事情的沸腾而造成身体部位的发炎;长期的怨恨会衍发溃烂而侵蚀自己,埋下肿瘤和癌的因子;内在罪恶感则始终给自己寻找惩罚或引来痛苦。所以在我们身体健康情况下去清除这些负面的思想,要比我们在惊慌和医生的刀口威胁下再去挖掘问题的症结要容易得多了。

Touch

January 18, 2008

[From DailyOM]

Sometimes we might concentrate so much on our spiritual lives that we overlook the wonders of being present in our physical form. When we are more aware of the fact that our bodies are also important in terms of our personal growth, we may find it easier to nurture them. One of the most powerful ways to do this is through human touch, for a loving, comforting touch allows us to access the part of ourselves that yearns for a sense of oneness with the world around us. Even simple forms of touch connect us not just to our bodies but also to the energetic presence of other people.

There are so many ways to incorporate touch in our daily lives, one of the easiest being a heartfelt embrace. Just making a point to hug someone on a daily basis and really feel our energy pass between each other can strengthen the bonds that keep us together. Hugs help us heal any hurt or upset we may have recently experienced by letting us release into the moment of the embrace and realize that no matter what happens to us, we have someone in our lives who supports and cares for us.

Another nourishing form of touch is massage. While we may think of massage as a luxury, it is actually an ancient form of healing that enables us to open up our energetic pathways in order to receive unlimited energy from the universe. It doesn’t matter whether a simple massage comes from a loved one or a massage therapist, but by giving ourselves the gift of massage every once in a while, we are doing something healthy and beneficial for our bodies. Massage helps our bodies activate their own restorative powers, creating a wonderful way to engage fully in our own healing.

Letting ourselves take advantage of the healing nature of touch creates space where we can truly live in and experience the world through our bodies, allowing us to completely immerse ourselves in the loving sense of joy and wonder that is our life.